Self Love.

When I talk about self love it’s hard not associate it with the wider culture. Growing up, as a young woman in a western society it was hard not to borrow and be influenced by what was sold by popular culture. It was hard for me to formulate my own benchmark because since birth I was given one. A benchmark of beauty, a benchmark of success, a benchmark of social roles, rules and norms…the list goes on. It’s only when I got older and a little bit wiser that I started to think that, maybe, I had bought into a big lie.

The problem with setting benchmarks is that they’re usually unattainable and especially when they are set by a large body of people either driven by money or power or both. My qualms lie in the fact that because of these accepted stereotypes and guidelines of how to look and live your life, peoples lives and their self love have been terribly effected.

I have struggled my whole life to love myself. Constantly told by the media, by some of my family and sometimes my friends that who I was, wasn’t in fact good enough. Even when you become a little bit older and little bit wiser it’s hard to break down those opinions and see them for what they were/are – insecurities of other people; insecurities of a culture. Not insecurities of your own. However, the sad fact of the matter is that sometimes these insecure opinions become your own objection to yourself and when that happens it becomes very hard to undo. The biggest problem is that focusing on the exterior will only lead to a bitter and sad interior. Being happy has little to do with whats on the outside. Yes, being healthy is important but health comes from within. True love for ourselves and for others comes from what is inside us. When you concentrate on what you look like on the outside, you will always feel unfulfilled. Be true to your spirit and everything else will be as it should.

They key is to find your spiritual life, in whatever form that may be. ‘The way’, ‘The dreaming’, ‘The enlightenment’, ‘The path’, ‘Being re-born’, – whatever you call it, finding that and digging deeper into it. For me, I am only at the beginning of my spiritual journey. I don’t have enough self love at the moment and I am working on it. Life without self love will constantly be an uphill battle and it will effect the other relationships and parts of your life that are incredibly important to you.

For me, I know I want to be a world worker. To share my creativity and abundance with others and to learn from others who are also sharing their passion, their heart with the world. I’m not there yet. I still have a lot of insecurities, memories and hurt to let go of but I’m taking it one day at a time. I’m going to try and live my dreaming and find a place of acceptance – to reach a place of healing.

happy thanksgiving from wednesday addams.


my friend, Gahiji Barrow wrote this about Thanksgiving. I thought it was really beautiful, very powerful and rings true, “This day doesn’t remind me what I am thankful for. Gratitude is a daily practice. This day reminds me that my privilege does not come without cost to others. What I am reminded of is that we are all still slaves to injustices of the perpetual past and will continue to be so until we free our minds. So on this day I remember the blood stained soil under my feet and the strength of my varied background ancestors to survive and thrive so that I may continue their resistance. So as we eat and drink and have a merry time, I keep in mind those that worked the land, those animals and plants that were sacrificed just for a day of glutinous consumption while many others go without. I am thankful that I find this holiday as offensive as Columbus Day. But I will enjoy it with my chosen family nonetheless and be as grateful as I am everyday that they are in my life and that I get to continue in this struggle with them.”

Mi Corazón


“And a Man sat alone, drenched deep in sadness. And all the animals drew near to him and said, “We do not like to see you so sad. Ask us for whatever you wish and you shall have it.” The Man said, “I want to have good sight.” The vulture replied, “You shall have mine.” The Man said, “I want to be strong.” The jaguar said, “You shall be strong like me.” Then the Man said, “I long to know the secrets of the earth.” The serpent replied, “I will show them to you.” And so it went with all the animals. And when the Man had all the gifts that they could give, he left. Then the owl said to the other animals, “Now the Man knows much, he’ll be able to do many things. Suddenly I am afraid.” The deer said, “The Man has all that he needs. Now his sadness will stop.” But the owl replied, “No. I saw a hole in the Man, deep like a hunger he will never fill. It is what makes him sad and what makes him want. He will go on taking and taking, until one day the World will say, ‘I am no more and I have nothing left to give.'” – Apocalypto

Christmas specials

Hello, Everyone.
To get in the festive mood I am doing portrait specials for $250. Usually priced at $800. I can do family portraits or single portraits or couples portraits or any kind of photos you might feel you want. They make for great christmas presents and look good on your wall 🙂 not to mention they will always be a wonderful keepsake.
If you’re interested please email me at: or call me +61488990012

I am currently based on the Gold Coast, QLD but could also travel to Brisbane or Byron or possibly further.

Aloha nui!

(the shoot i did with marissa and rick and stevie)

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